You can listen to the people who tell you teens can't be trusted, or you can listen to two expert moms who don't want you to waste a single minute disliking your teenager. If the latter sounds good to you -- this is your book!
Lenore Skenazy, author of Free-Range Kids
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As the CEO of Envision Possibilities and the mom of twins I was delighted to read this book now before entering the teen years. The authors have put together a masterpiece that truly teaches you as a parent not to fear the teen years. I especially enjoyed the chapter on how listening is effective, because I work with busy moms who want to take their life back I will use this as a resource for those moms who have teenagers to help them navigate the parenting waters.
Dixie Andrade - the Mom Coach
It is summertime, and the kids are out of school with a lot more time on their hands. While this can be scary if you think about all that could go wrong, this time of year can also be a time for parents to practice their trust in their teens and to celebrate their teenager’s good judgment.
Aren’t you glad you have slow parenting in your tool kit to prepare for and to enjoy this summer?
We encourage you to check in with your fears for the summer. What scenario keeps coming to mind that makes you uncomfortable? What are you worried about? Already a bit angry about and it hasn’t even happened? Are your fears based in reality? If so, what can you do to make yourself more comfortable (and less cranky) this summer?
My number one fear/button is having the television on during the day — right outside my office. I don’t really like the TV to begin with and then add to it that I can’t think very clearly when I hear other people talking, live or on TV. Having my son plop down on the couch to zone out in front of the TV gets in my way, and I get crabby. This fear is absolutely based in reality. So what can I do?
I can walk through the five attitudes of slow parenting, remembering to steward my son, to respect his personality, to catch him doing it right, to listen to him and to parent every day. The process reminds me that my son needs to zone out from time to time and that calms him. I realize that I could just plan to watch some TV with him and I could have a conversation about what I need and what he needs. We can probably work out something that suits us both; we have had that experience many times. I am feeling much better.
Maybe you are worried that your teenager won’t get a job and will mope around the house while whining, “I’m bored.” Maybe you are worried what you teen will be doing with friends when you aren’t around. Are you worried that your teen has too many commitments and won’t relax all summer? What about sticking to a curfew? What about having any time to yourself?
For parents of teens who will be driving a lot this summer, it might be time to look at your concerns with your teen’s driving. Have you ridden with your teen lately to see how he is handling the car? Have your received phone calls or text messages when you are pretty sure she is driving? Take a trip with your teen and see if you need to address any concerns. If you are concerned about your teen being a distracted driver, here is a resource for you.
In slow parenting, we ask you to slow down your thinking so you can respond to your teenager, not just react. If you have concerns about this annual change of schedule for everyone involved, then please take the time to consider how you can use those concerns to strengthen your relationship with your teen. Change can be a good problem. Honest.